Chủ Nhật, 26 tháng 12, 2021
CÁI GÌ CŨNG CÓ GIÁ CỦA NÓ!
20 Brutal Truths About Life No One Wants to Admit
Time is your most valuable asset -- you need to prioritize how you spend it.
It's much easier to talk about the weather, sports, and celebrities than your fear of mortality.
Unfortunately, the more time you spend pretending that ultimate truths don't exist, the more time you waste not being your authentic self and getting the most out of every precious second.
Time, not money, is your most valuable asset. Allow the list below to ignite the spark of motivation you need to make better use of the time you have on this planet.
Sometimes we need to head into the storm to appreciate the light and have a renewed passion for the beauty of life.
Here are 20 brutal truths that every single person needs to hear.
1. You're going to die and you have no idea when.
Stop pretending that you're invincible. Acknowledge the fact of your own mortality, and then start structuring your life in a more meaningful way.
2. Everyone you love is going to die, and you don't know when.
This truth may be saddening at first, but it also gives you permission to make amends with past difficulties and re-establish meaningful relationships with important figures in your life.
3. Your material wealth won't make you a better or happier person.
Even if you're one of the lucky ones who achieves his or her materialistic dreams, money only amplifies that which was already present.
4. Your obsession with finding happiness is what prevents its attainment.
Happiness is always present in your life--it's just a matter of connecting to it and allowing it to flow through you that's challenging.
5. Donating money does less than donating time.
Giving your time is a way to change your perception and create a memory for yourself and others that will last forever.
6. You can't make everyone happy, and if you try, you'll lose yourself.
Stop trying to please, and start respecting your values, principles, and autonomy.
7. You can't be perfect, and holding yourself to unrealistic standards creates suffering.
Many perfectionists have unrelenting inner critics that are full of so much rage and self-hate that it tears them apart inside. Fight back against that negative voice, amplify your intuition, and start challenging your unrealistic standards.
8. Your thoughts are less important than your feelings and your feelings need acknowledgment.
Intellectually thinking through your problems isn't as helpful as expressing the feelings that create your difficulties in the first place.
9. Your actions speak louder than your words, so you need to hold yourself accountable.
Be responsible and take actions that increase positivity and love.
10. Your achievements and successes won't matter on your deathbed.
When your time has come to transition from this reality, you won't be thinking about that raise; you'll be thinking about the relationships you've made--so start acting accordingly.
11. Your talent means nothing without consistent effort and practice.
Some of the most talented people in the world never move out from their parent's basement.
12. Now is the only time that matters, so stop wasting it by ruminating on the past or planning the future.
You can't control the past, and you can't predict the future, and trying to do so only removes you from the one thing you can control--the present.
13. Nobody cares how difficult your life is, and you are the author of your life's story.
Stop looking for people to give you sympathy and start creating the life story you want to read.
14. Your words are more important than your thoughts, so start inspiring people.
Words have the power to oppress, hurt, and shame, but they also have the power to liberate and inspire--start using them more wisely.
15. Investing in yourself isn't selfish. It's the most worthwhile thing you can do.
You have to put on your own gas mask to save the person sitting right next to you.
16. It's not what happens, it's how you react that matters.
Train yourself to respond in a way that leads to better outcomes.
17. You need to improve your relationships to have lasting happiness.
Relationships have a greater impact on your wellbeing and happiness than your income or your occupation, so make sure you give your relationship the attention and work it deserves.
18. Pleasure is temporary and fleeting, so stop chasing fireworks and start building a constellation.
Don't settle for an ego boost right now when you can delay gratification and experience deeper fulfillment.
19. Your ambition means nothing without execution--it's time to put in the work.
If you want to change the world, then go out there and do it!
20. Time is your most valuable asset--you need to prioritize how you spend it.
You have the power and responsibility to decide what you do with the time you have, so choose wisely.
Thứ Bảy, 25 tháng 12, 2021
NGHĨ KHÁC ĐI ĐỂ HẠNH PHÚC
Mặc dù vài hôm nữa mới sang năm mới, mới chính thức quay lại việc ghi chép chi tiêu và đặt bút viết nhật ký 5 năm, nhưng để lấy đà cho năm mới thì mình cũng bắt đầu túc tắc vào nếp dần. Chẳng hạn, từ giờ hoạt động đầu tiên trong ngày khi tỉnh giấc vào các ngày lẻ 1-5-10-15-20-25-30 sẽ là gửi 50k vào tài khoản Savvy, vào các ngày còn lại sẽ là gửi 30k vào Savvy. Nếu nghiêm chỉnh chấp hành thì 1 tháng mình sẽ được chừng 1tr, 12 tháng 12 tr, và duy trì năm năm sẽ là 60tr. Lặt vặt vậy thôi nhưng nó là bằng chứng cho thấy sự kiên trì và tính kỷ luật có thể mang lại những gì. Vì thế, riêng khoản bỏ lợn này mình sẽ kiên quyết ko động tới. Trong suốt 5 năm. Cứ cuối tháng lại tất toán Savvy rồi đẩy vào tài khoản SCB hoặc SHB. Giờ đâm ra lại có 4 tài khoản ở 4 ngân hàng khác nhau. Để tính xem phân chia sử dụng như nào... Nói chung mọi thứ đều đã sẵn sàng, chỉ còn thiếu tiền nữa thôi. Haizzz.
Ưu tiên số 1 sẽ là thu xếp chi phí sinh hoạt cho ít nhất 3 - 6 tháng. Ấn định ngày lĩnh lương là ngày mùng 1 hằng tháng. Hi vọng mình đã điều chỉnh giảm budget đi rồi thì mọi chuyện dễ thở hơn. Chỉ là, phải kiểm soát chặt chẽ và track every cent. Sẽ tập thói quen ghi lại từng đồng chi tiêu. Bảng tính đã lập hoàn chỉnh. Tiền lương 1 nửa để ở tài khoản để thanh toán online, 1 nửa rút ra cho phong bì, chủ yếu để mua thức ăn và nhu yếu phẩm. Kiên quyết ko vay tạm tháng sau, ko được hụt. Tiền còn thừa sẽ dành để lập quỹ Sinking dành cho các khoản chi tiêu đột xuất/không thường xuyên. Hè tới này Khánh đã đăng ký cho con đi học đàn guitar với tập bơi rồi.
Ưu tiên số 2 là lập quỹ Emergency, trước mắt cần 20tr là đủ. Công dụng của khoản này trước mắt chỉ là để mình yên tâm, lúc nào cũng có tiền trong tài khoản, chứ 20tr giờ tiêu cũng vèo cái hết :'(
Ưu tiên số 3 là mua 1 cái desktop, giá chừng 7-8tr. Hôm qua ngó vào Pico thấy có cái hơn 5tr mà ko biết dùng được ko. Mình cũng chỉ dùng word với pdf, vào mạng là chính, đại khái nhu cầu dưới mức cơ bản.
Ưu tiên số 4 là trả nợ. Mục tiêu là tới tháng Sáu giữa năm phải thanh toán sạch sẽ các khoản nợ. Càng sống càng thấy câu nói ngày xưa mình từng học thuộc nó đúng: Anh có thể nhìn thẳng vào mặt thiên hạ mà không thẹn / Vì anh không nợ ai. Dĩ nhiên, từ "nợ" ở đây không đơn thuần chỉ là chuyện tiền bạc.
Ưu tiên số 5, sau khi đã thực hiện 4 ưu tiên trước, dĩ nhiên là tích lũy chi phí sinh hoạt cho càng nhiều tháng sắp tới càng tốt. Lý tưởng nhất vẫn là đủ tiền cho 1-2 năm sau.
Ưu tiên số 6, cuối cùng, là tiết kiệm và 1 khoản nhỏ để đầu tư.
Tạm vậy đã. Bài học rút ra: Nên kết thúc năm từ tháng 11 hằng năm. Tháng 12 vừa nhẩn nha vừa tạo đà cho năm tới. Đại khái cũng cần 1 tháng thong thả để nghĩ mục tiêu và kế hoạch cho năm tiếp theo.
Thứ Sáu, 24 tháng 12, 2021
Nguyên tắc là SỐNG TỬ TẾ và TÔN TRỌNG CÁ TÍNH CỦA BẢN THÂN
Gửi đến bạn, những cô gái rực rỡ ngoài kia…
Lưu lại cho con gái...
20 of the BEST Dave Ramsey Tips That Will Makeover Your Money Today
In case you aren’t familiar with his plan, it is broken down into baby steps.
DAVE RAMSEY BABY STEPS:
- Save $1000
- Pay off all consumer debt
- Save 3-6 months of expenses
- Invest 15% in retirement
- Save for kids college
- Pay off mortgage early
- Give generously
These baby steps are what his tips and plan are based around. The baby steps 1-3 are done one at a time and steps 4-6 are done together if you can. Then once you are to baby step 7, you are able to give generously!
1. MAKING A WRITTEN ZERO-BASED BUDGET
This is the first and most important step to ANY financial plan.
A written budget is the foundation for everything that you do with your money.
A budget will tell you what you and can’t afford. It will tell you exactly where and how to spend your money.
Now, when I am talking about a budget, I mean a zero-based budget.
This is slightly different than just writing down your income and expenses and spending what is leftover.
A zero-based budget means budgeting every single dollar. It takes a little more time but it is worth the effort.
2. USE CASH
Using cash saves you on average 15-20% just at the store. Studies have shown that we spend cash differently than swiping a card. We question the purchase differently and spend less when using cash.
Cash envelopes are a convenient way to organize your cash for each category and stick to your budget. Using cash helps you stick to your plan and stop overspending.
It is not necessary to use cash for every single bill. You would use cash for shopping and categories that you have a tendency to overspend.
Once you are out of cash in that category, stop spending for that category.
Some cash categories include:
- food
- animals
- miscellaneous expenses
- hair/beauty
- kids expenses
- eating out
- fun money
You can also get a discount at a lot of places for using cash. Especially on someone providing a service and even medical bills. All you have to do it ask, the worst they can do is say no.
I saved several hundred dollars on replacing my HVAC system by asking for a cash discount.
A lot of hospitals and doctors offices will also take a cash discount if you pay it in full, even if you have insurance.
3. TAKE CARE OF THE “FOUR WALLS” FIRST
When you are making your budget, you want to prioritize your spending. The “four walls” are the most important things that we need to survive and get to work. These things come before anything else.
The four walls include:
- food
- shelter (rent/mortgage, utilities, taxes)
- Transportation
- clothing
If you are behind on your bills, you catch up these things first. These items come before any debt payments.
So, make your budget then catch up on your four walls before moving onto the baby steps.
4. LIVE LIKE NO ONE ELSE, SO LATER YOU CAN LIVE LIKE NO ONE ELSE
This is one of the most known Dave Ramsey tips. Basically it means that you sacrifice and pay off debt now, so later you can enjoy your money like no one else.
Following his plan is not “normal” by today’s standards so, you live like no one else now so later you can live the life you want.
Basically, he is talking about sacrificing what you want now so you can have it later, without all the debt and stress!
5. YOU DON’T NEED A CREDIT SCORE
Dave says you don’t need a credit score or as he calls it a “I love debt score”.
Now this tip is in general good but it is quickly getting outdated. I do agree with not focusing on your credit score and going into debt in order to keep it high.
The key with your score is that it has to be good or zero, not somewhere in between. One big objection to this is “what about a getting a mortgage?”.
You can get a mortgage without a credit score. It just can’t be a bad credit score.
There are instances where you need a good score for jobs or insurance. So, it’s important to know how a zero score will affect you. Most jobs that look at scores, just don’t want a bad one.
So, generally speaking, this tip is still valid.
6. SAVE $1000 BEFORE PAYING OFF DEBT
Saving $1000 is the first baby step in Dave Ramsey’s plan. Making your zero-based budget and catching up on your four walls are groundwork for the baby steps.
Saving a $1000 starter emergency fund will help you avoid adding new debt while you are working on baby step 2. This won’t solve all your problems, but it will be a buffer while you work on other things.
It will help you cover minor things that will pop up while you are paying on your debt.
If your income is below the poverty line, you can save $500 for this step instead of $1000. However, keep in mind that you won’t be able to cover as much if something comes up.
7. PAY OFF DEBT AS FAST AS YOU CAN USING THE DEBT SNOWBALL
Paying off debt is baby step #2 in his plan. This step is meant to be completed as fast as you possibly can. The time it takes will depend on the amount of debt you have and your income.
It is crucial for you to stop using debt while you are paying off so you can actually finish this step.
The most effective debt pay off method for changing your behavior is the debt snowball.
The debt snowball method is paying off debts starting with the smallest balance NOT the highest interest rate.
This is effective because you get the small wins and can see your debt disappearing.
If you are intense about paying off your debt as fast as you can, generally speaking, the interest rate won’t matter. Most people using the debt snowball pay off their debts in 18-24 months.
There are instances where the interest rate may matter and most of the time that is with student loans. There are occasions that refinancing your student loans may make a difference. Especially if it will take you years to pay it off and have a high interest rate.
Be sure to use a debt snowball calculator to see how fast you can actually pay it all off. It is probably faster than you think. The calculators are also an easy way for you to make adjusts and see how much faster you can do it.
8. USE SINKING FUNDS
Sinking funds are just saving for certain known expenses that don’t come up every single month.
Examples of sinking funds include:
- Christmas
- Vehicle maintenance
- Property taxes
- Gifts
- Birthdays
- Vacations
- Medical expenses
- Animals
- Kid activities
These are things you should plan for and put in a separate account or cash envelope so that it doesn’t accidentally disappear.
Saving for these things in a sinking fund are so important because if you don’t it will make it harder to stick to your budget and avoid debt.
The more you can plan for the less of an emergency it because when it comes up.
There are a couple of ways that you can save for sinking funds. If you know what you want to spend on Christmas for example, you can divide it by 12 and save that much each month.
Or you can fill the fund as you get extra money in your budget.
Thứ Tư, 22 tháng 12, 2021
Thứ Ba, 21 tháng 12, 2021
Công trình đồ sộ đã xong. Sổ nhật ký cho 5 năm. Chia làm 2 tập vở mới đủ. Làm mất gần 3 ngày. Như thế này mình sẽ biết ngày này năm trước mình làm gì, nhắn nhủ gì với bản thân trong tương lai. 5 năm này sẽ là 5 năm cố gắng. Thực ra kế hoạch 5 năm của mình bắt đầu từ năm ngoái, và deadline là 31.12.2025.
Từ bây giờ, sẽ hạn chế viết về những vấn đề và rắc rối của mình, mà viết về những mục tiêu và tiến độ cũng như những thành tích của bản thân.
Mình cũng ko vào blog để hô hào khẩu hiệu với đặt deadline nữa. Cũng ko bắt mình tập trung ở blog. Từ giờ 1 tuần vào FB 1 lần. Thực ra, sau vài tuần như thế mình sẽ thấy nhạt nhẽo với FB dần thôi.
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Ngôi nhà mơ ước tạm hoãn. Mục tiêu lớn giờ là lo chi phí học sắp tới cho 2 bạn nhỏ.
Sơ sơ thì đã hình dung được một chút. Chỉ là, vẫn là quay về câu hỏi đầu tiên: tiền đâu?
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Nói về tổng kết năm. Thì cũng ko có gì đáng nói. Ko, thực ra là đáng nói rất nhiều. Vì năm nay giống như năm bản lề vậy, nó đưa cuộc sống của mọi người trở lại quỹ đạo bình thường, ko bị cái bóng kia trùm phủ nữa. Nói cuộc sống mới của mình chính thức bắt đầu từ năm 2021 ngày cũng được, từ ngày 1.7.2021 đi, khi mình sửa nhà xong. Dĩ nhiên, cuộc sống mới này bắt đầu với một khoản nợ.
Mục tiêu cho 6 tháng đầu năm sẽ là thanh toán hết các khoản nợ nần. Hi vọng rồi ra mọi việc sẽ ổn.
Cố lên nào!!!!
Chủ Nhật, 19 tháng 12, 2021
8 Habits of Productive, Happy and Energetic People
Những gợi ý rất hay..
Happiness is like going to the gym. You have to train daily and the more you exercise it, the better it will be.
Being happy and feeling productive means self-realization, reaching the goals of a human being. It is a "state of great spiritual and physical satisfaction."
This state does not depend on what your company does for you, it does not depend on your partner, on your parents. It depends on you, your thoughts, your habits and your decisions.
According to the author of the happiness algorithm, Mo Gawdat, happiness is like going to the gym . You have to train daily, it is not advisable to put it aside for a long time, and the more you exercise it, the better it will be.
Our key to being happy, having energy and having a productive life: “create a system with rituals / habits” .
Systematically add more energy recovery spaces to your daily life and routine that also allow you to feel happy and rearrange your priorities.
Rituals are an excellent way to give ourselves structure, an opportunity to make positive changes in our lives, create the formula to feel better and achieve our goals. The secret is to make these rituals part of our daily routine.
Habits identified within the ritual system of happy, productive and energetic people:
1. They have a clear morning routine that is non-negotiable
- It is a collection of activities that you create for yourself, before starting your day. Activities that lead you to having a great day and that somehow establish a positive mindset.
- Hydrate your body, meditate, exercise, healthy breakfast, read, talk with your children, drink tea with your partner. All this before social networks, phone calls, WhatsApp or opening your computer to work.
2. Create a daily purpose
- Identify how you want to feel today. Identify how you want to serve the world today, how you could have a greater impact on the people with whom you will have contact today.
- Find out how you can get one step closer to your goals.
- Define the quality and frequency of thoughts you want to maintain during the day.
- This simple practice allows us to be more attentive in the day, in control of our actions and achieve our goals.
3. They carry out physical activity
- Whether you include it in your morning routine or at some other time of the day but do physical activity at least three times a week
- Science proves that exercise optimizes your brain, your mood and your ability to concentrate, which optimizes your performance.
- 78% of people who consider themselves extremely happy do physical activity at least three times a week.
- Harvard says that aerobic exercise is key for your head, just as it is for your heart. Counteracts depression and stress and reduces anxiety
4. They choose good food for the brain: they prefer natural, unprocessed foods
- Healthy eating is associated with better self-esteem and fewer emotional problems and higher productivity.
- Regardless of body weight, eating healthy is an act of self-esteem and self-love.
- What we eat is related to our health, our energy level, our concentration and our mood.
5. They have quality personal relationships
- Harvard's longest study of happiness found that healthy relationships are the most consistent predictor of a happy person.
- Having a few close relationships has also been found to help us live longer and better quality lives. So it is the connections in our lives that make life worthwhile.
6. They stay busy but not in a rush
- Research shows that if you constantly rush, you will feel miserable. On the other hand, studies suggest that having nothing to do can also backfire on the brain.
- It is best when you are living a productive life but at a comfortable pace. Expand your comfort zone, but not so much that you feel overwhelmed.
- The best advice here is to say no to the things you are not excited about, and yes to the things you can say "Sure you are!"
7. They take breaks on a regular basis
Although they are passionate about their work, they respect schedules (as well as entry) and exit and clear their mind during the day by moving away from screens every certain time.
8. Train your mind
Tung hoa!!!
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